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Jehovah’s Witnesses Ruin Families – Part I

Submitted by Jaymes on April 16, 2010 - 11:05 am 6 Comments

Every now and then, we receive emails from users that would like their story told. This is one of them. Do Jehovah’s Witnesses ruin families? Read this three part true story and let us know if you think Jehovah’s Witnesses ruin families.

Jehovah's Witnesses Destroy FamiliesI have been meaning to tell this story for some time now. I feel that I would like to share it so that it may serve as a warning to anyone who thinks that the Jehovah’s Witness religion does not have a negative effect on children.

I have been out of the religion for 4 years now. I wasn’t brought up in the organisation. At the point I left only my wife and I and our 2 little children were active Jehovah’s Witnesses.

I left completely disillusioned with the whole thing. Badly treated and hurt by the actions of many witnesses. At the same time I had a few good friends who I still care for and love.

I left the organisation because I felt that what I was taught as a bible study ten years previously (I was 18 when my wife and I studied) was not what was practised in the religion. I felt a gross lack of love. I saw very angry and frustrated individuals in many congregations. I saw families that were a mess. But mainly, I was averse to believing and practicing some of the things that I was introduced to AFTER I became a baptised Jehovah’s Witness.

I knew the day that I bacame a parent that I couldn’t withold medical treatment from my kids if required to do so. I knew that I would rather cut my right arm off than SHUN my flesh and blood baby girl if she transgressed this religion as an adult. I hated having to look down on non witnesses and believe that their lifestyle sentenced them to death at the hands of a bloodthirsty god of ‘love’.

As I progressed as a pioneer and ministerial servant, I saw a side of this religion that disturbed me greatly. My disbelief in god grew day by day. My disgust at what I was supposed to believe and teach my children who were very young just escalated. I became depressed and even suicidal.

One day in January 2006 I walked out of our kingdom hall and I knew I was never, ever going to return. It sounds pathetic but it was one of the bravest moments of my life. If I hadn’t taken that action back then, I could very well still have been a part of the organisation today. I had attempted to leave before but couldn’t do it. This was my time now. I believe my action back in January 06 saved, at the very least my sanity, but very possibly my life.

When I put it to my wife, she was naturally upset. Things were hard in our family for many months.

As time passed, I became more and more opossed to the whole thing. I hated the fact that my children were being infected with this dispicable belief system. A set of beliefs which teach young children that their whole world, including non-Jehovah’s Witness relatives, schoolmates etc. is soon going to be destroyed by god because they are evil, wicked people. I was becoming more and more aware that what Jehovah’s Witnesses are prepared to teach children, MY children, is wholly inappropriate.

I reasoned that if this religion could take me, a happy go lucky 17 year old and turn me into a paranoid, depressed, anxious wreck, then what could they do to my children by means of this gradual drip, drip, drip that happens as you soak in their words and phrases? Their sectarian beliefs.

You see, I was lucky to have been raised in a loving, happy family. I grew very much closer to my non-Jehovah’s Witness parents after I left the organisation. I began to understand just what an effect my being a witness had on them. I began to respect my parents as I matured as a person and related to all that they carried out and went through to raise myself and my sister. I was enjoying happy times with them again. Birthdays, new year (which in Scotland is a big thing), mothers/fathers day. My respect for my parents, despite any mistakes they made when raising us, was completely restored. I was having a relationship with them again which had been ‘put on hold’ during my ten years as a Jehovah’s Witness. It was all good.

Except my kids were still being raised as witnesses by my wife whom I love deeply. My daughter (aged 8) who is very, very bright was being drip fed this illness every single week. I could gradually see that it was having an effect on her. Here was me, the father she loves and respects being a part of celebrations that she is being taught are wicked and deserving of death (yes, celebrating my fathers 60th birthday really is viewed as being worthy of death!). I didn’t realise it at the time but my daughters head was a mess. One day, last year, it all came to a head.

What I heard from my daughters lips convinced me that action needed to be taken. She came to be in a state of severe agitation that day. She was delirious. What I saw and heard from her made me cry and weep like a helpless little boy once she had fallen asleep that night. The whole sorry sitiuation is a sad indictment on the Jehovah’s Witness religion.

Read Part 2 of

Also, I would like to add that the Watchtower, Bible & Tract Society has announced that a “Special Talk” will be given throughout each and every Kingdom Hall in the world, come this weekend (17th/18th April 2010).

I too, would also like to make an announcement that a “Special Blog Discourse” will be made available on Sunday, 18th April 2010 at 10am (London Standard Time – GMT).

Please tune in.

  • http://www.JehovahsWitnessBlog.com Steve

    Hi Amelia,

    Yes, I’m sure your story will help others to see the consequences of following this religion. Thanks so much for sharing it.

    It’s almost impossible to reach someone in a cult through reason. Just try to love your dad; he’s still locked inside there somewhere. Love him as you would if he had Alzheimer’s or some other mental illness. Sometimes love can accomplish what logic alone cannot.

  • Amelia

    i hope my story helped people to see what its like from a kid who was brought up in the religion

  • Amelia

    My name is Amelia Gonzalez, I am now 16 .Being a witness for 13 years . I never realized how much Jehovah witnesses minds were poisoned . I would love to share my story, especially coming from someone as young as me . When i was younger I use to be so jealous of other kids of the fact how they got to celebrate birthdays, christmas and easter. I could never understand why I couldnt be normal like any other kid, i wasnt aloud to watch movies or tv shows that had magic in it because they thought magic was the devils work. i even remember that i wasnt aloud to play with or have over any kids that werent in that religion .

    April 22nd 2007 was the divorce of my parents, who both grew up in the religion, my sister and I both were forced to be brought up as ones to. After my mum left the religion they all took pity on her and thought she was some sort of monster just because she had left my dad, her older brother and her dad have nothing to do with her since she left. It still makes me sick to think how heartless they could be, just because it didnt add up to their expectations of a Jehovah witness. When the divorced papers carried through my dad wanted my sister and i to make the decision to either be with our mum or him, being kids we couldnt make that decision we loved out parents both so much. Finally it came to agreement that we would spend one week at a time at each of parents houses, when the week rolled by to go spend at dads my sister and i never would never look forward to it.

    Dad remained serving as a jehovah witness so we were forced to go to the meetings, my sister and i tried to tell him many times that we didnt want to go but he would make us feel so bad by giving us a whole lecture on how it would make god unhappy and him aswell, he would tell us we would live in ‘Paradise Earth’ if we served him. But really i never believed in such a thing and still never do.

    As my sister and i got older we started to have our own say about how we thought of the religion and how we didnt believe in such a god we could see how badly our dads mind had been poisoned with such nonsense . I still remember the night my dad walked out of my sisters dance concert she had worked so hard on for a whole year, the dance concert was called ‘Carn(evil)’ but he didnt know it would have creepy zombie clowns,music of people screaming and my sister and her dance group dressed as zombie puppets the whole effect was for people to be on there edge of there seats with thrill and excitement. But my dad being a jehovah witness walked straight out before my sister came out on stage, he thought it was demonic and god wouldnt be happy if he sat there a carried out through the whole show. My sister was so upset when she found out and didnt talk to him for months.

    My story of my father and his ways still upset me, even with arguments that are irrelevant to the religion he still reflects it back to it which makes me so angry and frustrated. I can still never get through to him because he stands so strongly on what he believes in and to be honest i think ive lost him all together, so yes Jehovah witnesses do rip apart families .

  • Angela

    This article touched my heart. I grew up with a mother who was a Jehovah’s Witness and a father who was a holiness pastor. I hated being a Jehovah’s witness because it seperated me from my friends and family. I believe the kingdom hall is what messed Micheal Jackson up. Having to constantly worry about when the “NEW SYSTEM” of things was to come about. I suffer from depression and anxiety….and do you know why? Because of that kingdom hall!!!

  • http://www.JehovahsWitnessBlog.com Andrew

    @Eniye: *sigh* No no no! You can’t just say we write thoughtless words or slanderous thoughts without providing evidence!

    And don’t fool yourself. You don’t follow the bible. You follow the Watchtower interpretation of the bible. The bible itself is full of immoral teachings anyway! And did you even read the post? Jehovah’s Witness teachings destroy families.

  • Eniye Deborah

    JEHOVAH’S People are a set of organized people who follow Bible standard. And are organized to do Jehovah’ will be it thoughtless words or non Biblical sayings form critics. So the earlier you begin to eliminate this slanderous thought the better for whoever wants to inherit God’s Messianic kingdom. Our main aim is to advertise the kingdom and teach from the ultimate source of truth the Bible.
    Thank You.