Real Life Experiences
Another Family Destroyed by Jehovah’s WitnessesSubmitted by Teeny on November 5, 2010 - 10:08 am 54 Comments
I hate having to write articles like this. Honestly I do. When I have to write about a family being destroyed by Jehovah’s Witnesses, it breaks my heart. Therefore, when I received the email about the below family, I felt so angry and upset that nothing is really being done to stop this cult.
The below experience is true, although I have changed the names of the people involved so as to hide their identity. I can state that the following happened in the UK.
Richard and Gina are the loving parents within a Jehovah’s Witness family. Their two daughters, Nina (18 years of age) and Mary (17 years of age) were born in The Truth™, as were their parents, Richard and Gina. Richard is an elder and Gina has been pioneering for the past 12 years. Gina’s father, Bill, is a Circuit Overseer, and her mother, Rosemary, is a typical Circuit Overseer’s wife.
Even though both Nina and Mary have been going to the meetings all their life, they have both come to the decision that they do not want to be a part of the Jehovah’s Witness faith. Now, in any other religion, this may have been frowned upon, but I doubt the following would have taken place.
On Nina’s eighteenth birthday, she explains to her parents and to Mary that she no longer wants to be a part of the religion. She tells them all that she wants to live a normal life, go out on dates, go on holiday’s with her friends and be free from having to wake up on Saturday and Sunday morning for field service.
Richard and Gina are quite upset when their eldest daughter tells them that she no longer wants to be a Jehovah’s Witness, but they remain calm. Nina isn’t baptised and therefore her transition away from the Jehovah’s Witnesses shouldn’t be as hard as someone who is baptised. Richard begs Nina to reconsider and to promise them that she will think about it. Nina, being the great person she is, tells her parents that she will think about it.
That evening, Gina tells Richard to not discuss this with her parents. Richard tells Gina that if Nina is to stop being a Witness, his in-laws are bound to find out sooner or later and so it is best that he tells them. Gina is deeply upset at his decision.
The next day, Richard speaks with his mother-in-law, Rosemary. Upon hearing that her granddaughter wants nothing further to do with the Jehovah’s Witnesses, Rosemary gives her son-in-law, Richard, some sound advice.
“If Nina wants nothing further to do with Jehovah’s Organisation, it would be best for you to throw her out of the house and have nothing to do with her either. It is best that Nina be treated like any other disfellowshipped person. In the long term, Nina will come to see that you have done this because you love her.”
Richard has a dilemma on his hands. Before he can tell his wife, Gina, what advice her mother has given him, his father-in-law calls him up and says the following:
“Hi Richard. Rosemary has told me the situation regarding Nina. I had a feeling it would come to this. I did warn you, didn’t I? When our Gina was 12, we urged her to get baptised, and she did. She dedicated her life to Jehovah at such a young age and has not looked back since. We explained how important it was to make sure your daughters were baptised at a young age, but you didn’t take the advice seriously. If Nina and Mary had been baptised now, they would have had second thoughts about leaving the Organisation. They know what it means to be disfellowshipped and trust me Richard, they wouldn’t have even thought to leave the Organisation if they had been baptised. Anyway, there is nothing we can do about her decision to no longer be a Jehovah’s Witness, but I do stand by the advice given to you by Rosemary. Nina cannot think she’s gotten away with it so easily. You have to treat her as being disfellowshipped, which means cutting her off completely. I also don’t have to remind you what the after effects could be on your position in the Organisation if you don’t treat her as such?”
When Richard got home, he spoke with Gina and explained everything that her parents had told him. He told her that he had made the decision to kick Nina out of the house that very night if she had decided to stick to her decision. Gina was distraught at the idea that her little girl would be cut-off. Where would she go? What would she do? Gina begged Richard to not take the advice of his in-laws. Richard told her that his decision was final.
When Nina came home, Richard asked for a family meeting. In the living room, Richard asked Nina if she had decided what life she wanted to lead; either a loving one in God’s Organisation, or a life in Satan’s system. Nina tried to explain that she didn’t view it like that all, but had decided that she no longer wanted to be a Jehovah’s Witness. Upon hearing this, Richard said the following:
“Nina, as your father, I do not respect nor value your decision. Both your mother and I have decided that you are no longer welcome to stay in the family home any longer. Please go upstairs and pack your stuff now. We want you out within three hours.”
Nina sat there in shock. Gina and Mary started to cry. Richard gave a look of disgust towards his daughter Nina and then left the room.
Nina left that night. She has been living in a bed sit since. Gina has been providing her money and helping her secretly.
The biggest impact on all of this has been Mary. In the last two weeks, she has attempted suicide by overdosing on pain killers.
At the hospital where she had been admitted, Richard’s in-laws came to visit. Gina said very little. Nina was in the room with Mary and because of her presence, her grandparents remained outside, not wanting to be infected by her insolence.
Turning to Richard, Rosemary said:
“This is all so terrible Richard. I understand that Mary also doesn’t want to continue as a Witness? Well, there’s nothing I can say other than tell you what you already know. The New System is right around the corner. When this world becomes a paradise, you will have soon forgotten about Nina and Mary. Jehovah will bless Gina and yourself with new children, perfect children that love you both, but above all, love and serve Jehovah”.
As I said above, I have changed the names of the people involved in this terrible and tragic experience. Gina has emailed me the information.
Now, I don’t care what reasons any Jehovah’s Witness can come up with for condoning this behaviour. It is sick, it is cultish and I repeat, it is sick.
Gina has told me that she is seeking legal advice about getting a divorce. She has told me that Richard is unmovable in his stance. He knows that if he doesn’t treat Nina as a disfellowshipped person, he risks being demoted from his lofty position as an elder in the congregation.
This story has moved me so much, that I have just ordered the Steven Hassan book,Combatting Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best-selling Guide to Protection, Rescue, and Recovery from Destructive Cults, for Gina to read.
If anyone had the slightest doubt that the Jehovah’s Witness faith isn’t a cult, I think your idea of them now may have changed somewhat.
They make me sick. Oh, and for the love of God, don’t even dare come on here and say that the above experience was an extreme one and that it doesn’t happen.
Sick sick sick sick cult!